Welcoming a second child into your family is a beautiful, albeit challenging, journey. As parents, you quickly discover that going from one to two children is a dynamic shift that reshapes your daily life, priorities, and perspectives. In this blog post, we'll explore the rollercoaster of emotions and experiences that accompany this transition, from the exhaustion to the unexpected joys and our top 7 things the mums at Lovingly Signed learned.
‘I’ve never been more tired’:
One of the first things you realise when transitioning from one child to two is that the exhaustion reaches new heights. With two little ones vying for your attention and care, sleep becomes a precious commodity. It's a marathon of nighttime feedings, diaper changes, and comforting cries. However, amidst the fatigue, you'll find a newfound strength and resilience you never knew you possessed. You will also realise that the tiredness you felt when you had one child was nowhere near how you feel now!
‘I learned to multitask, well, everything’:
Multitasking takes on a whole new meaning when you have two children. From preparing meals with a baby on your hip to managing a toddler's tantrum while soothing a newborn, you become a master of juggling tasks and humans. The ability to multitask becomes an invaluable skill that extends beyond parenting and seeps into various aspects of your life. Although, when it comes to parenting, multitasking is not so much simply doing several different things at the same time but more doing several different things whilst holding one or more small humans on your body. A whole new level of juggle!
‘I’m quicker to identify what I do and don’t care about’:
As a parent of two, you become an expert at prioritise. The little things that used to bother you suddenly take a backseat to the more significant challenges of keeping two humans plus yourself alive. You become adept at discerning what truly matters and letting go of the rest. It's a lesson in embracing imperfection and focusing on the joy amidst the chaos where you can.
‘Some relationships fall off the grid’:
The dynamics of your social life may change as you navigate life with two children. Some friendships may take a backseat temporarily, but the ones that matter will understand and adapt. The key is to cherish the relationships that withstand the test of time and parenthood, recognising that quality often triumphs over quantity. A huge point to note, you do realize you do not need the world’s biggest group of friends but quality friendships come into their own.
‘Self-care is twice as difficult, but twice as important’:
Balancing self-care with the demands of two children can be challenging, but it's more crucial than ever. Finding moments to recharge, whether it's a quick nap, a hot shower, or a few minutes of solitude, becomes a non-negotiable. Remember, a well-nurtured parent is better equipped to nurture their children. Remember the saying ‘put your own oxygen mask on before helping others to put their on’ this is so relevant to parenting babies and toddlers. You cannot function for them if you have no air for yourself. Every time a visitor comes and wants to hug and hold the new baby or your toddler - say yes (subject to your comfort and trust of course).
‘You’ve done this before but you also… haven’t’:
While experience from parenting your first child is undoubtedly valuable, every child is unique. What worked for your first may not work for your second, and vice versa. The challenge lies in adapting your parenting approach to suit the individual needs and personalities of each child, making the journey simultaneously familiar and brand new. It is very common for firstborns to be classified as a ‘tricky’ baby and second born children to be ‘a breeze’.
‘It’s all a phase’:
Parenting is a series of phases, and this holds true when transitioning from one to two children. The sleepless nights, the constant juggling, and the challenges you face are temporary. Embracing the mantra "it's all a phase" helps you navigate the tough moments with grace and appreciate the fleeting joys that come with each stage of your children's development. Although, it is completely understandable to feel like the phases are never ending and to struggle through them. That’s normal and that’s ok.
Transitioning from one to two children is a transformative experience, filled with exhaustion, joy, and the unpredictable twists of parenthood. Take all the help you can get and priorities yourself every day so you are the best parent you can be.